Author: Roy
Date: Mar 23, 12 at 10:50pm (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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quote XxSkelterXxIt seems like they are trying to fund this by the way they are forcing kids to play with other kids who they may not even get along with. I say if you want to meet people, have your children play sports, join clubs, do extracurricular activities at school, so they can have something they can enjoy doing while meeting new people without being told who they should be friends with, let them decide that amongst themselves.What is it with people in a position of authority thinking they can tell people how they choose to socialize in school? This is why shit like columbine happened. This time is not the kids abusing others, is the damn faculty.
Author: ShadowCrystallux
Date: Mar 23, 12 at 11:00pm (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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Banning the concept of 'Best Friends' is bull. I have about a circle of my 10 best friends so if one leaves- although I will miss them lots- I won't be stuck without anyone to talk to. But the whole point of letting kids have freedom and choose their friends is to experience life. I mean- I learnt my lesson to have more than one very close friend when my best friend left for the other side of the country a year ago. I was so upset. But I still talk to him and see him every 3-6 months. But adults can only deter- they cannot choose for their child.
Author: Daedric Prince
Date: Mar 24, 12 at 7:55am (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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Such a dumb idea. The more you "protect" children from things, the less they'll be able to cope with important matters as an adult. The idea that a school system wants to regulate friendship (an important and sometimes long lasting concept) flabbergasts me
Author: xXxaimeexXx
Date: Mar 24, 12 at 7:31pm (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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I can't believe I just read that. Banning best friends? WTF is this?? Quite possibly the most idiotic idea ever. With the possible exception of Daylight Savings Time.
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Author: Roy
Date: Mar 24, 12 at 10:58pm (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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quote Daedric PrinceExactly. Why force them to be friends, when the children can decide who they want to be friends with themselves. I mean what's next are you going to force them what to wear oh wait...Such a dumb idea. The more you "protect" children from things, the less they'll be able to cope with important matters as an adult. The idea that a school system wants to regulate friendship (an important and sometimes long lasting concept) flabbergasts me
Also, I understand don't leave one stoned unturned as to being don't let anyone be lonely in school with no social life, but like I said before sports, groups, extracurricular activities, and any other social club are better ways to make friends.
Author: Emberguard
Date: Mar 25, 12 at 3:22am (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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quote DynamiteIronically by doing this that's exactly what they're causing. Not so much the breaking up with friends, but knowing that the others are being forced to play with you.The intention seems to be to shield children from the upset caused by breaking up with friends,
I remember in a movie (forget the movie) the popular kid asked the non-popular kid whether they would prefer to be a friendless loser or to be surrounded by friends who secretly hated them.
Really it gives more harm to the kid to force them to play with another who doesn't want to play with them. Even if they do get tolerated its generally painfully obvious if the other doesn't want you there or if you're the odd one out. As soon as the adults are gone chances are the other kids will make it clear they're not wanted anyway and then there's the heartbreak of rejection not by one person, but by many.
Author: hiigaran
Date: Mar 25, 12 at 3:45am (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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quote Emberguardi still remember back a loooong time ago when i was in after-school care, and they had this kind of 'policy' forced on us. there was a reason why i didnt want to play with the smelly kid, and i told the truth about it as well. then the workers (carers, whatever) had the audacity to tell me off about it? geez, thats what happens when you get on someones back about something like this.quote DynamiteIronically by doing this that's exactly what they're causing. Not so much the breaking up with friends, but knowing that the others are being forced to play with you.The intention seems to be to shield children from the upset caused by breaking up with friends,
Author: Roy
Date: Mar 25, 12 at 9:41pm (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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There's always one smelly kid lol. People do have the audacity to do those things, because they have the power to and they think it's the best fit for them, but in reality, they are dismissing what the other people are trying to do or say.
To each his own, I guess.
Author: stickdude
Date: May 12, 12 at 9:40pm (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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the whole "no best friends" thing is a load of bullcrap. having friends and then losing them is a part of life. I'm just sick of "Barney the Dinosaur" and "My Little Pony" trying to shield children from real life. I'm not saying 4 year olds should be told they'll have a shitty life if they're not working the rest of their lives, but people shouldn't be saying they'll get everything they want if they behave. hell, you could be as good as Jesus and still end up as a hobo.
Author: Roy
Date: May 13, 12 at 12:05am (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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So what you are saying is that people need to deal with reality, rather than to be sugarcoated or scrutinized over the fact that they think people are always going to be there for them? It's true, there are some consequences. You cannot always expect it to run smoothly.
What if your friends move, or what if they stop hanging out with you because they move on to a different clique?
Author: Rome
Date: May 13, 12 at 1:33pm (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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That is just silly and probably pretty hypocritical. I'd imagine the teachers and administrators that make and enforce such rules have their own best friends.
Author: Roy
Date: May 13, 12 at 4:26pm (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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The point being is that you cannot FORCE someone to be your friend. They have to like you for who you are. In away, forcing people to be your friend is somewhat similar to forcing someone to have sex. Now I know your going to scrutinize me and say, how is it similar. Well, it's similar because you are not giving people the freedom of choice, you're cornering them and making do something or be with someone they may not even like.
I understand, get to know the person better, you never know who you may be friends with (optimists). However, there is a fine line to what is your best judgement to who you keep company with or accompany.
Author: visloq
Date: May 30, 12 at 6:25pm (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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Next they will eliminate birthdays because not all of them are during the school year. : P
All of this "protecting" of children just removes them further from reality which brings us to the point of what schools are for in the first place. Preparing children for reality. A reality with best friends and enemies.
Author: Adrienne
Date: May 31, 12 at 5:13pm (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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quote RomeIf most teachers are like the ones I had, they'll just ignore the rule. I would buy my kid a "Best Friends" necklace to wear to schoolThat is just silly and probably pretty hypocritical. I'd imagine the teachers and administrators that make and enforce such rules have their own best friends.
Author: Roy
Date: May 31, 12 at 11:22pm (PST)
Subject: re: Schools Ban "Best Friends"
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quote visloqOr even possibly school superlatives. Making people feel better over others, shows cockiness, it's like a school having a dress code, because they don't want people to feel inferior to others, just equal. Next we will all be zombies.Next they will eliminate birthdays because not all of them are during the school year. : P
All of this "protecting" of children just removes them further from reality which brings us to the point of what schools are for in the first place. Preparing children for reality. A reality with best friends and enemies.