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Samnite Sempai true seeker total posts: 1245 since: Jul 2005	May 07, 07 at 9:45pm ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	Log in to remove this advertisement I wouldn't worry about that and trust in yourself that you have the self control. You have to know you can resist, because no-ones going to slip a shot of "willpower" in your morning coffee. It's easier than you think not to kiss someone. You havn't done anything wrong, and theres no reason to start now. ------------------- Fear denies faith.
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Justin Time For Peace & Donuts Neo or Bust since: Jul 2005	May 07, 07 at 9:51pm ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	quote TaintedAmaranthine I'm in quite the predicament...Let's see. I'm married for almost one year, to a man I love more than anything. We've been together for about two and a half years, so we did move fast, but I don't think it was a mistake. I love him as much as I did before, and I think we'll make it. But...there's this thing. Recently, about a month or so ago, I had a dream about making out with a co-worker of mine. All fine and good, just a dream, but after that dream, I started thinking about it, and realized I may have a crush on this guy. Since then I've had at least two more dreams about him, and I find myself thinking about him a lot more. He's about 15 years older than me...and we wouldn't get along I don't think at all, relationship wise. We get along well at work and joke around a lot, and I find myself trying to talk to him more and more. I just want this to stop. I like the guy, and, I'm afraid, if the opportunity arises, I may give in to temptation, even though I don't want to...I just don't know what to do, my mind is torn and I'm feeling so much guilt... How old are you? ------------------- Awaiting Moderation
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ProudLoz No lies. Only truth. True Addiction total posts: 18067 since: Jun 2004	May 07, 07 at 10:18pm ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	TaintedAmaranthine, it's not bad to look at someone that's attractive. But, it is bad when you're starting to like that person when you're in a commitment. See, don't think that this is bad at all because it happens to everyone. Instead, look at this like a test. This is a test where you're going to see it you're going to stay true to your said loved one. You know what the consequences are going to be, and we can't help much other than to tell you to just try to not let curiousity get the best of you, or to stop seem your co-worker less, and stuff like that.
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Omnimon207 Pokemon Rox! It's True! threadnought total posts: 640 since: Jun 2005	May 08, 07 at 2:28am ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	Heres the deal, I love Karen more then anything. But you see... I think that I'm hurting her. Not physically, but mentally. Without realizing it, I might accidentally ignore her, then she gets mad at me. So, I called her earlier tonight to apologize for being such a jerk, but she hung up before I could say anything. So, I called back. In a hush tone, she said, "Don't call me again. You just embarrased me in front of my whole family. They are treating me like a freak." Through this whole thing, she was crying. Over and over again I said, "I'm really sorry. I only called to apologize for such a jerk I was. I'm sorry I called." I reall upset her.. she was crying pretty hard. She then said good-bye and hung up. I had hurting her like this. When I hung the phone up, I cried. Thinking, Why is my life like this? I try to do good... and it turns out bad... why? Truly, I love Karen with all my heart, but I'm thinking about breaking up with her. I really don't want to break up with her, but I also want what is best for her. Right now, I think breaking up would be best choice. I love her too much to break up with her. So... what should I do? I feel that breaking up may be the best thing... but I'm also afraid that I will hurt her even more if I break up with her. I really need help. ------------------- Credit For Avatar: Homunculus Lover
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HyperShadow0213 [AoC]Unite! Two much Neo total posts: 2236 since: Feb 2003	May 08, 07 at 2:35am ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	If you really love her, then you can pull through with this. Breaking up with her is just going to make her feel worse and make her mind more discombobulated. Give this situation time, and if you feel that you continually feel that you are just hurting her, then talk to her about it and see what she has to say about it. -------------------
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Omnimon207 Pokemon Rox! It's True! threadnought total posts: 640 since: Jun 2005	May 08, 07 at 2:39am ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	Okay. Thanks. I'll do that. ------------------- Credit For Avatar: Homunculus Lover
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ProudLoz No lies. Only truth. True Addiction total posts: 18067 since: Jun 2004	May 08, 07 at 2:59am ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	Omnimon207, do you mind explaining to me how in the world you embarrased her? Edit: Nevermind. I kinda got the idea that you embarrased her because you called continuosly when her family was over. Look man, that was obviously her own fault. She should've answered the phone the first time and should've just told you to call her later, or that she would call you back because she had her family over. In way, you should've just took it calmly and just called her back later on in the night instead of calling her over and over and over again. It honestly does get annoying and I speak this through experience. Honestly, if she does get mad, just let her calm down. Give her about and hour or two and she should call or something. Trust me dude, she's not going to forget about you. According to your profile, you're in sixth grade and I'll honestly tell you that the relationship that you have with her won't last as long because you both lack the experience to actually have a real relationship. I say get yourself out of this situation whether it means breaking up with her straight up, or just sugar-coat the whole thing and break up with her. You're in 6th grade, by the time you hit 7th grade you're going to want to meet other people. Trust me, and besides you're too young to have these bleeped adult problems. This message was edited by ZL on May 07 2007.
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Bale Fire Neolithic total posts: 6437 GameGrep pts: 18209 since: Jan 2007	May 08, 07 at 8:16am ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	Perhaps talk to your husband about it, Now this may sound odd but my girlfriend got a crush on a older man and she told me about it and we worked it out together, just admit its a physical thing but you don't know what to do -------------------
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Omnimon207 Pokemon Rox! It's True! threadnought total posts: 640 since: Jun 2005	May 08, 07 at 12:42pm ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	quote ZL Omnimon207, do you mind explaining to me how in the world you embarrased her? Edit: Nevermind. I kinda got the idea that you embarrased her because you called continuosly when her family was over. Look man, that was obviously her own fault. She should've answered the phone the first time and should've just told you to call her later, or that she would call you back because she had her family over. In way, you should've just took it calmly and just called her back later on in the night instead of calling her over and over and over again. It honestly does get annoying and I speak this through experience. Honestly, if she does get mad, just let her calm down. Give her about and hour or two and she should call or something. Trust me dude, she's not going to forget about you. According to your profile, you're in sixth grade and I'll honestly tell you that the relationship that you have with her won't last as long because you both lack the experience to actually have a real relationship. I say get yourself out of this situation whether it means breaking up with her straight up, or just sugar-coat the whole thing and break up with her. You're in 6th grade, by the time you hit 7th grade you're going to want to meet other people. Trust me, and besides you're too young to have these bleeped adult problems. This message was edited by ZL on May 07 2007. How could you say such a thing? You can't put an age on love, truly you can't. Love with people at a younger age is just as strong as an older persons love for someone. If I could.... and hopefully will.... I want to be with Karen forever. She is the only person who can actually get me thinking, thinking about the larger things in life. The things normally I would just casually brush off. She always makes me smaile, evenw when I am horribly sad. I mean... I love her, I truly do. ------------------- Credit For Avatar: Homunculus Lover
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zarbityugi Must affix everything to everything! Resident Neo total posts: 2687 since: Sep 2003	May 08, 07 at 6:45pm ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	In the heart of my 11th grade year, I thought I was in love with this girl. We were looking forward to getting through our senior year of high school together, graduating, probably separating through college, then hooking up again and getting married and... And then things changed between us. I can't describe it, but something changed. Maybe we got bored, maybe we thought we were too close... something changed. Chances are really good that you are infatuated with Karen. You could possibly love her, I don't know. But statistics and probabilities tell me that you are probably infatuated. You're in 'puppy love'. You think and say that you're in love, but you really just enjoy her company more than all the other girls you are around in school. I'm not saying this to discourage you, just to try to get your view in perspective. You're in 6th grade... you have 6 more years of schooling before you graduate. That's a lot of time to be with one person... -------------------
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TaintedAmaranthine newseeker since: Jun 2004	May 08, 07 at 7:19pm ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	quote Justin Time How old are you? I'm 21...yeah, we got married young, I know that...but I don't feel like it's been an issue with us so far, anyway. And a few people said something about talking to my husband about it...and I don't think I can do that. He and I both are very easily jealous of any person of the opposite gender who possibly could show interest in either of us. I think that if I said something, he would be hurt and angry and upset and it would last for days or weeks. He may even stop trusting me at work. It could be bad. -------------------
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T0a5t3r Still Seekin' since: Apr 2005	May 08, 07 at 7:38pm ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	You obviously love your husband. I doubt you love this guy at work. Who's more important, really? Everyone has crushes even if they're already in a meaningful relationship, they just have the strength to not be an idiot and try and persue something just for a quick bleep. quote Omnimon207 How could you say such a thing? You can't put an age on love, truly you can't. Love with people at a younger age is just as strong as an older persons love for someone. If I could.... and hopefully will.... I want to be with Karen forever. She is the only person who can actually get me thinking, thinking about the larger things in life. The things normally I would just casually brush off. She always makes me smaile, evenw when I am horribly sad. I mean... I love her, I truly do. I'm pretty damn sure you can. Sorry. This message was edited by T0a5t3r on May 08 2007.
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Chronic Apathy NeoXtreme total posts: 8582 since: Sep 2006	May 08, 07 at 7:39pm ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	Is there anyway to stop thinking about someone. Everyone involved knew it would happen, but Autumn and I broke up pretty quickly, about something pretty stupid. At this point, there's no way I'm going out with her again, and this is confirmed by her parents hating me (I won't go into details, but I sent them an email that among other things, contained words that rhyme with "duck shoe".) I don't know if I'm going to talk to her again or what, but I still can't get the thought of her out of my head.
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Majin_Sesshomaru [Star] Resident Neo total posts: 2984 since: Jul 2003	May 08, 07 at 7:59pm ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	Ok. If I like a girl but am good friends with her ex, is it ok to go out with her? The guy broke up with her and doenst really care about her at all, in fact he's already got a new girlfriend.
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Angyles Cerddoriaeth Pimpstress Legendary Seeker total posts: 17033 since: Mar 2003	May 08, 07 at 8:01pm ^ re: Dating: Asking, Conflicts, Tips 26
	quote Majin_Sesshomaru Ok. If I like a girl but am good friends with her ex, is it ok to go out with her? The guy broke up with her and doenst really care about her at all, in fact he's already got a new girlfriend. Honestly if your friend is ok with it, it is fine. Problems only occur when the friend is not ok with it. Keep in mind though, it could potentially cause issues for you with your friend in the long run.
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