Dating: Asking, Conflicts, relationships, and Tips 2011c

quote Stem Cell

Long Story

Spoiler:

---

First of all I would like to thank Bill Gates for shutting down my computer right before I was about to post this f****** post a few minutes ago. Now I have to re-write it all over again..

Anyway. Bear with me here. Long post, I need to explain the complexity of the situation, and then basically you will probably tell me ‘she crazy, run’. But here’s the situation.

From September 2011 to December 2011, Me, T (first initial of her name), and a group of college kids took part in an internship program. We got to learn about each other during this time period.

Positive Attributes: Ok, the flirting. It was extreme w/her and me. First instance, she would trip, kick, pinch, punch, etc. me and I would do the same to her. She would stare at me constantly during parties; laugh at my jokes, etc. People in the internship noticed her looking at me all the time. She would sit next to me during meetings, If I didn’t sit next to her she would find it weird. She once said she’s surprised I love animals so much, usually guys don’t like animals. I like her dog a lot and she likes animals which I like. The second week we were there, we all threw small apartment parties within the same complex. Eventually me and her were quite drunk and left and went back to her place for whatever reason. Waiting for her, I walked into the bathroom and accidently walked in on her pulling up her underwear right in front of me. I stopped and stared for a second, she didn’t flinch. Only looked up and continued to pull them up, and I kind of walked out. I was pretty drunk at this moment/wasn’t really thinking clearly but still found it weird she was so lax about me walking in on her. Anyway, a few minutes later she was on the couch and I felt her leg up but had no intention of sleeping with a girl I hardly knew so I left a few minutes later. It was only a few weeks later that her friend told me she had full intention of sleeping with me. I was kind of surprised.

Negative Attributes: While at the internship she hung out with her ex-bf during the weekends when I would go back home to work. I never acted like this bothered me, as I like to save face and don’t give people the satisfaction of seeing me jealous or anything, and at the time I hardly knew her so I didn’t care so much. He’s her ex-bf of 5 years too; they have a lot of history compared to me and her. It’s understandable. She dated a lot of guys during the program too. Once when we were at a party I remember we were waiting for a dude to pick her up for a date. I was annoyed w/it. She might have noticed because I was ignoring her and talking to everyone else but I didn’t say anything. She’s also admitted to having sex with 15 or more different dudes. I found this gross. She’s 20, had a bf of 5 years… so that means she really went wild for a bit with a lot of different guys. I find that kind of weird.

Eventually, the program ended and we all went home.

Fast forward to just last week. Me, her, and a group of people went down to DC for a political event. We shared a hotel room with 2 beds with 2 other people. I slept in one bed and she slept in another right across from me. Keep in mind, during this time, she is back with her ex-bf.

1st Night: Me, her, and another room mate got drunk at the bars and hung out all night. While at one bar she asked me, “do you ever wonder if your soul mate would ever walk through the door ever?” I said “yeah, would be nice”. Hah. I dunno why she would ask me that and not anyone else. We also met up with a guy there that talked to her all night and a lot, which annoyed me a bit, seeing him as a threat. She never physically flirted with him though, just laughed at jokes. Eventually, (since I haven’t drank in a while), I was hammered and went back to the hotel room. I passed out. A few hours later they came up and to wake me up she wrote her name on my face. She put me in a behind-the-head choke hold to which led to me wrestling with her on the bed in my boxers. I haven’t had that much physical contact with a girl since I broke up with my ex, it was weird to wrestle with her and have that much fun with a girl I liked without dating her. I liked it a lot… Eventually we all went to bed.

2nd Night: I was too sick to go out so I stayed in. Eventually around 3:30am she got back. First thing she did was walk in the room and lay on top of me and asked what’s up. She then proceeded to tell us she made out with a 38-year-old rock band member in his car earlier in the night. She called the behavior ‘badass’. I was grossed out and put my stomach in a knot. I didn’t think she was a wild chick like that. I was wrong eh? Eventually she was starting to go to bed. She would just stare at me for long periods of time, we’d make eye contact and just hold it. I did it because I like her, I dunno why she did it back. I read into things a lot.

3rd Night: 5 guys, 1 girl and me and her and a roommate hung out in the room and played Kings the drinking card game. These guys were gross, constantly making comments about trying to get in her pants and chit, I never say that stuff out loud I feel like it shows a sign of being desperate, perverted and disrespect, along with more desperation for sex. Like a bunch of drooling dogs. Anyway… I was finished with parties early in the night so went back to the apartment and since I was nervous that she was going to bring back that rock band guy I kept my mind occupied by cleaning the entire apartment… Eventually she did bring him back and I talked to the guy like nothing was bothering me at all. I didn’t talk to her much. I noticed he was trying to get close to her, she was into it too much, but it still bothered me. I told them I was leaving so they could ‘do their thing’, to which she said nothing was going to happen but I left anyway. An hour later I came back for pillow/blankets, to which she said just come in nothing is going to happen, sleep here, I said no I don’t want to get in the way of you bangin this guy. She said ‘You know me. I’m not going to do it. Come on you know I’m not going to.’ I said ‘You’re drunk I don’t know what you’re going to do. It’s fine’ then slept in the other room.
In the morning, I came back and made fun of her for liking a 38-year-old old man. She took the jokes and dished some out, saying I was just jealous, etc. Whatev. We eventually left and got back home, we hugged and left.

I haven’t talked to her since. The next day she uploaded all the pics of me and her from the trips to Facebook. Haven’t contacted her… I like this girl. I don’t know what to do. She doesn’t mind taking guys home and banging right off the bat, seems to be cheating on her boyfriend, and I’m not sure what she thinks of me? What’s your advice? I need to get over this girl quick but it’s been hard. I feel like watching her behavior on this trip has helped me get past her a bit actually. But maybe she's unhappy with current bf and is planning on breaking it off? Though I still wanted to share this experience for some advice.

quote SilentScream

So I met this chick off of plenty of fish the other day. She seems cool and lives locally. We're taking it slow, talking on Facebook and crap like that.

We haven't met, yet, but we're going to this Friday.

Any advice yo?

quote Shadow of Truth

There is no such thing as it being meant to be.

quote Resilience

I just don't really see the point of dating or being in a relationship. I'd like to know what the point is.