Dating: Asking, Conflicts, relationships, and Tips 2011c - Page 9

SilentScream - I think your relationship with Girl 2 is the least of your worries atm, with respect. The first question that needs answering is whether Girl 1 plans to keep the baby. If she does, I'd want a paternity test, because if you are the father then you have a responsibility both to her and to the child.

quote Resilience

My nephew is 16 years old, and he's been raised by his mom his whole life.

(so he has no idea how to treat a woman without friend zoned)

that's wrong.

look at black people. some of them grew up without father figures, and yet they still know how to treat ladies. growing up without father figure is probably the best way to understand women. hence why more and more girls are attracted to them nowadays.

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quote Lazzara

quote Resilience

My nephew is 16 years old, and he's been raised by his mom his whole life.

(so he has no idea how to treat a woman without friend zoned)

that's wrong.

look at black people. some of them grew up without father figures, and yet they still know how to treat ladies. growing up without father figure is probably the best way to understand women. hence why more and more girls are attracted to them nowadays.

Perhaps I should explain more;

His mother is a whore who has never had a relationship in her life.
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She knows abso-*bleep*ing-lutely nothing.

some of these people have siblings from different fathers, so it's not exactly different. he'll figure it out. you didn't say anything about how confident he is with girls, though. is he social? it's pretty much the same thing, whether you're in middle school or a 50 year old, girls love confidence. that's the only thing he needs to work on if he didn't have it already.

not having a father figure helps a person to get more comfortable with girls (so it's either he's confident, or he's gay)

quote Praetorian_Lord

SilentScream - I think your relationship with Girl 2 is the least of your worries atm, with respect. The first question that needs answering is whether Girl 1 plans to keep the baby. If she does, I'd want a paternity test, because if you are the father then you have a responsibility both to her and to the child.

I am wanting to do one but I need to find out how.

He's friends with the 'cooler' kids, but he's not generally liked because he's too different mentally.

Lazzara

I'm in a bind.

I met this girl back in early December at one of my band's shows. We had a ton of similar interests and hit it off very well, although both of us were in relationships. We continuously talked until early January, where I was single and she was still in a relationship. Now this guy wasn't exactly a winner. He had dropped out of high school, had no job, and sat around all day smoking weed. He also lived 30+ minutes out of the city. We kissed one night and she told me that she would leave this guy for me, and she did. The guy had treated her like crap and when she tried breaking up with him he just yelled and didn't really accept it, so she left him a voicemail and never heard back from him. I took my opportunity and we started dating early-mid January.

Things have been going very good, we have chemistry in many ways and we spend almost every day together. I get all of her attention if she isn't with family. She has given me no reason to trust her. But while we were hanging out Friday night, she received a text from the ex boyfriend saying "Babe?" I was behind her shoulder and she didn't know I read it, but when she realized my reaction she asked me what was wrong. I was straight up and asked her why he was texting her at all, let alone calling her babe. She states that he has been bugging her ever since she got her new phone a week ago, trying to get her back and everything, a few weeks after she left him. She got a bit frantic when she explained it to me because she thought I didn't trust her.

I do trust her, but it just bothers me that he's texting her. He isn't getting the message that she's not with him anymore. I've sort of been freaking out off and on the past 2 days since it happened and I just need to know which direction to take this. Do I drop this, confront him, or tell her that she needs to talk to him to the point where it's clear he needs to leave her alone for good? I'm very conflicted and just need some sort of solace in the situation.

The Lost Soul, truth is, she's probably a slut. She's looking for a good time because 1) her boyfriend doesn't put out enough or 2) she's a slut and doesn't care about you or her boyfriend. That's not something you want to get involved with.

The Lost Soul

She's probably just having some fun. You probably weren't the only person to get the photo. Just say you're seeing someone and that if she were to see the photo, she may misunderstand and dump you.

Lazzara,

Could you offer any tips? I'm an older gentlemen (42) , and things have changed since my time.