Dating: Asking, Conflicts, relationships, and Tips 2011c - Page 8

I went out last night and met a girl in the pub (Forgot to mention I was pretty drunk).

She came with me and my friends to the club and on the way was telling us how she's got a girlfriend.
Me and her were at the back of the group and she pulled me to one side and told me to kiss her. So I did

Then in the club she was all over me. She kept asking me to go back to hers but I refused. Then once we left we went somewhere a little more private and things went further. She then asked me again to go back to her but I refused. She then walked away pissed off.

I feel pretty bad being as she has a girlfriend but then at the same time she was the one who kept coming on to me. Forgot to mention she lives with her girlfriend and said she wont find out cos she will be asleep


What I want to know is who do you think was more in the wrong: me or her ?


P.S. I'm a guy btw

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quote Shadow of Truth

One of the main things I have learned from my dating experience is that when girls think someone is cute or handsome (not sexy or hot so to say), they are referring to their actions more so than looks. Like smiling or laughing in a cute way would be an example. They think you say sweet things, or they think you act "tough". Am I correct on this assessment?

Please tell me you're kidding, please?

Actions my arse. Confidence my left nut.

Looks play a hugeee role in the dating process.

Do you know what makes a typical attractive male face? Very little fat, high cheekbones, defined jawline, narrow facial shape, and long chin. All those are indicators of high levels of testosterone. Just Look at Brad Pitt, Ryan Gosling, or Adam Levine.

The chubby boy at the back of the room with no jawline and round face better have a hell of a personality (or $$$) if he wants to score. No matter how 'cute' his smile is.

You want handsome?

.http://photos-h.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/390610_187057728058995_100002643062195_316376_1326734579_n.jpg

That guy don't need no actions to look handsome.

Jared Leto is cute (but also handsome).

Beauty is objective for the most part, hence why most guys who are dating 9/10 and 10/10 girls look like models. It's like "I'll trade you my good looks for your good looks." but if the 2nd party has no good looks, he better have a great personality or money to compensate. So enough with the "attitude is all ya need
Bs."

I never said actions were all you need. It's not an opinion to whether looks play a role in the dating process, it's evolution. I was simply asking if you guys believed that cuteness was based more on actions rather than looks, as opposed to hot and sexy being based on physical attributes. From my conversation with some of the girls at school on the subject, they said that cuteness had a lot to do with how they acted more so than their appearance.

Just out of curiosity, what is everybody's opinions on here about long distance relationships?

quote QuadLazer

Just out of curiosity, what is everybody's opinions on here about long distance relationships?

I think it really depends on your personality, the personality of your partner and the nature of your relationship. Have the two of you met before, have you met each other online or something between the two? Can you trust that this person is being truthful with you if you're never seen them face-to-face?

Personally I would never become involved in a LD relationship because it goes against my way of forming bonds with people. I cannot feel I am forming meaningful bonds with people I can't see or interact with in any way outside of text. It's for this reason I don't even like talking over the phone with people. Though for some (like walnuts above) these relationships work out, for me it just isn't the way I develop relationships with others.

quadlazer Yep Long distance can work but you have to be commited and remain focussed as temptation can occur.
With my gf we've been together 2 years she's been away at Uni in South Korea since around last April. It's been hard but she's my girl, the love of my life so remain focussed and loyal too her. I. Visit her this April or May which I can't wait.

Thanks for all the answers guys! Narphinean, to answer your questions I am not actually dating someone who is long distance (or anyone for the time being for that matter) so no I haven't met them. Basically all I am doing is just currently trying to be more aware of relationships that play out in my friends and family's lives at the moment. I find it ironically funny how many of the people I know/see jump to date people who are very local to them in distance, even the ones that travel, and the few friends that I have that have tried dating someone who is over an hour's drive away have failed. I've heard mixed things about long distance relationships, but I suppose it is painfully obvious that it would be hard since there would be so much distance between two people. What I don't understand, though, is why some people will settle to date or, in many cases, marry someone based on simply how "easy" it is to accomplish. Easy meaning things like: easy to go to the movies with, easy to see, easy to talk to, easy to date, etc. etc. I dunno, to me I have always thought that long term, serious, meaningful relationships take real human efforts, but in the same sense are really humanly rewarding. I don't think I would personally be able to hold a relationship when everything is easy to do. Not that I would want to date a difficult person per se, but that I wouldn't want to date someone that I [i/]really[/i] liked or really wanted a serious relationship with and just have things like seeing them or talking to them be so easy so much of the time.

What do you guys think?

My nephew is 16 years old, and he's been raised by his mom his whole life.

(so he has no idea how to treat a woman without friend zoned)

He's pretty mature for his age, and seems connected to death. He likes doctors, vampires, and serial killers.

I can't help him because when I was his age, girls were different. Now, they're all different.

So, younger crowd, give me tips to help him out? He needs to get confidence, and learn how to woo ladies.

I do not know whether to post this here or in the health forum since this is going to be a question involving relationships and a pregnancy question. I am in a very tight predicament:

Not only am I stuck between two women, but one of them is pregnant...

To make this as short as possible... I was in an intimate relationship with, let's call her Girl 1, for a month and a half. It lasted from November 10th to December 26th. In between that time we were seeing each other and having sex. After a hospital visit a few days ago it turns out she is pregnant.

She went to the hospital on two separate occasions in early January and had a blood test done for pregnancy in which it came back negative. Since she tested negative both times I really didn't think much of her frequent vomiting and figured she just had a flu or something.

Two days ago she went back to the hospital and it they did another blood test on her and it came back positive. She's officially pregnant and has a follow up with the OBGYN.

Here's the problem... she is telling me she is 100 percent sure that I am the father of the child. She tells me that even though she has had multiple partners in the past she did not sleep with anybody other than me from November to now. With that said, if she is telling the truth and because the blood test did not pick it up early this month she must still be early in the pregnancy. I also remember her telling me back in November that she had her period. She's barely showing a stomach to begin with.

With that said, she swears up and down and swears on everything that is holy to her that I am the father of the child. Because of that I do not know why she would lie about something like that. Since we are not even together right now she should not have a reason to lie to me about it...

With that said, a week after our relationship ended I developed feelings for another woman that I have been currently seeing for about a month now. Let's call her Girl 2. Girl 2 and I are in more serious relationship NOT based on sex (seeing as we have not even had sex yet). We just go on dates and talk on the phone and things of that nature. She considers me her Boyfriend and I consider her my girlfriend and we have been working on developing our relationship.

I honestly don't know what to do or if I should even tell my current girlfriend of the situation. Girl 1, again, is swearing up and down that I'm the father of the baby and I don't even know how the whole DNA test thing would work or how ANYTHING will work out now.

I am looking for some advice on what I should do as I feel extremely lost right now...